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SelectiveLife C.I.C.

Release. Reclaim. Rise.

A safe, culturally responsive community for mature Black African and Afro-Caribbean women — where no woman has to carry her burdens alone. Counselling, coaching, wellbeing activities and sisterhood, online and in Bexley.

Choose Better. Live Happier.

Why SelectiveLife

Too many women carry invisible burdens in silence.

Many Black African and Afro-Caribbean women experience trauma, loss, domestic abuse, caring responsibilities and poor mental health, yet do not seek support because of cultural stigma, fear of judgement, or the belief that they must simply be strong. Culturally responsive, trusted spaces where women feel understood and accepted remain scarce. SelectiveLife exists to break that cycle of silence and isolation.

28.1%

of Bexley residents are from ethnic minority backgrounds

8.5→12.2%

growth in Bexley's Black population, 2011–2021

50+

women engaged through our community

2020

the year our safe space began

The SelectiveLife CHOOSE Model™

Every choice creates a new possibility.

Step 1

Choose to Engage

Show up. Take part. Be present. Your presence matters.

Step 2

Choose to Connect

Build relationships, find your people, belong.

Step 3

Choose to Discover

Learn, explore, become curious about yourself again.

Step 4

Choose to Grow

Reflect, build resilience, take the next step.

Step 5

Choose to Empower

Your life. Your voice. Your choices.

Step 6

Choose to Thrive

Move beyond survival into purpose, wellbeing and joy.

H.O.W. W.E. H.E.L.P.

A journey from survival to thriving

Weekly activities, group healing and practical tools rooted in the S.E.L.E.C.T. Framework™.

HHeal Together

Mindfulness & meditation circles

OOpen Up Safely

Reflective storytelling & sharing circles

WWellness First

Self-care workshops & pamper evenings

WWisdom Through Play

Quiz games & creative challenges

EEmpower with Boundaries

Practise saying no without guilt

HHarness Strengths

Confidence boosters & skills practice

EExplore Possibilities

Vision boards & art therapy

LLearn Resilience

Group problem-solving & support circles

PPrioritise Self

Me-time routines & celebrating wins

Come and be part of it

Our signature gatherings

Warm, welcoming events where connection happens naturally.

Signature event

Brunch To Bloom

A beautifully laid table, honest conversation and gentle reflection. Women gather over brunch to be nourished — in body, mind and spirit.

Signature event

Summer Fare

Our open-air community day: stalls, food, wellbeing taster sessions, music and family fun. A relaxed way to meet us for the first time.

"I'm better than what tried to break me, because I choose to heal and thrive."

Funmi Adewumi — Founder, SelectiveLife C.I.C.

You don't have to walk this journey alone.

Whether you're looking for support, want to volunteer, or would like to partner with us — we would love to hear from you.